Focus on Yourself

People always tell you “just focus on yourself and the right person will come along when you least expect it.”

But after years of “focusing on myself”, that advice sounded like bullshit from people who had forgotten what it was like to be single.

I had been focusing on myself, but I wasn’t focused on healing myself. I was focused on fixing myself.

I was doing everything I could think of to appear like a happy, healthy, well adjusted person. But really I was just finding ways to distract from the pain.

Having a broken heart does not mean that you are broken. There is nothing wrong with you. You do not need to be fixed. You are not unworthy of love. Your heart can heal. You are the incredibly powerful and vibrant force that will do the healing.

Focus on yourself, but not on what you think is wrong. Focus on what you need to feel more like you. What lights you up? What makes you feel alive? What nourishes you inside and out? What make you feel like time flew by? What makes you feel powerful? Grounded? Limitless? Unstoppable?

Focus on those things, and before you know it most of your time is spent in those places. And one day you look around and realize it’s been a long time since you felt lost and broken.