Sex and Shadow Work

“I didn’t decide to become a witch. I remembered I was one.”

~Lisa Lister

Welcome to the season of the Witch! It’s the one time of year when everyone else gets as witchy as I feel year-round. Scorpio is the sign of transformation, of death and rebirth. It’s no coincidence that Halloween, or Samhain, falls during this time. Many cultures celebrate and honor their ancestors during this time of year when it’s believed that the veil is thin between us and the spiritual plane. We fear death, yet we are constantly dying and being reborn on a cellular level. Recognizing the cyclic pattern of life allows us to see the shedding and dying off as an opportunity for new growth. As women we experience this every cycle. Monthly bleeding is sometimes referred to as the “small death”. And just like the Moon we are reborn each month.

Scorpio is the sign of the taboo, the dark and secret desires of your soul. We fear what we keep in the shadows, and so shadow work is going deep into the hidden parts of your psyche to face the fear and allow greater healing. We all have darkness, we cannot be light all the time. An essential part of self-love is self-acceptance. This means acknowledging the parts of yourself that are harder to love, seeing that they are a part of how you got to this place, and accepting yourself as you are. This doesn’t mean you can’t continue to change. In fact, it’s from this place that you’re able to find the most growth. Scorpio is determined, investigative and relentless in the pursuit of a goal. Use this energy to explore the deep, dark waters of your own soul.

As the second Water sign, Scorpio brings with it intense emotions. It’s a good time to work with the Sacral chakra which is where we process most of them. The Sacral chakra also governs our reproductive system and is located right over your womb space. This is your own cauldron, a powerful source of creation energy. Tantric yoga has many practices that use this energy and spread it to the rest of your body for healing.

Scorpio has a sexy, magnetic energy that draws people in and mesmerizes them. But female sexuality has been demonized and thought of as wrong or sinful. It no longer feels safe to be sexy. Yet sensuality can be sacred, divine, and healing. Sex, with or without a partner, is complete surrender and ecstasy at a high vibration. There are whole courses taught on Orgasmic Manifestation. Sacred sensuality is an energy we can tap into. It doesn’t have to be or look a certain way, it’s a practice you cultivate yourself before sharing it with a partner.

Your challenge for Scorpio Season is to do something each week that makes you feel sexy! This can be anything you want and is totally personal to you. Maybe one week you take a sensual bath, another you wear your nicest underwear, or maybe you do a breath work practice using the Sacral chakra. Remember, it isn’t about what other’s perceive as sexy, its what ever helps you embody your most sensual self.

Resources for Scorpio Season 

Chakra: Sacral – Water element, emotions, sexuality, creation energy

Crystals: Citrine or Moonstone

Essential Oils: Ylang-ylang or Orange

Reading: Witch by Lisa Lister

Challenge: Get Sexy!

On The New Moon 

Take some time by yourself to set intentions for the new cycle. Remember this is your practice, there are no rules. Allow yourself some freedom to experiment with what works for you. 

  • Set the space for inner work.

  • New Moon meditation

  • Journal Questions

  • Gratitude List

  • Set Intentions

  • Closing ritual:

 Closing phrase: “This or something better manifests for me now, under grace and in perfect ways.” 

Affirmation: “I am reborn.” 

 

Meditation

Journal Prompts 

How connected are you to your own sensuality? Where do you notice resistance or fear?

How comfortable are you with your own body? With seeing yourself naked?

What are your secret desires?

What dark secrets have you been hiding that need to be acknowledged?

How would it feel to be accepted despite the things you are ashamed of?

What is the lesson these things are trying to show you?

 

Gratitude List 

At least 5 things that make you feel sexy.